My Wanderings - 83. The Conflicts

                                   Some  people believe that ninety percent of conflicts in this world are due to ego problems and only ten percent have some monetary or  other considerations behind them.  Normally conflicts  between induduals start with arguements. Mostly both parties are correct from their own point of view but one person can not perceive others point of view.Actually conflict is illusion of perceptions.The people have quite contradictory perceptions on the same subject and  sometimes ego   also plays its own part. One person is  fully aware that  he is wrong but his ego does not allow him to admit this and arguements continue.It is an old saying that you should try to win the will of man rather than arguement. While we strive to win the arguement, we are loosing a friend.Therefore it needs guts to admit it  when you are wrong and when you are right you should never boast of it.  If we are proved right we are in habit of saying that we had already said it so that is not also good habit. One of my friends , whether he agreed with you or not,was in habit of starting his conversation as..
You are absolutely correct sir, and then would explain his point of view.
As we are discussing arguements and conflicts,in a lighter vien , I remember a tale of two friends who were having some dispute and were at loggerheads with each other.one of the friends got seriously ill and was virtually on deathbed at some hospital.  He called his friend and told him that  as he has to  die  soon ,  they  should forget about the dispute and become friends once again .The other friend became very emotional and readily agreed to his proposal. Then other  stood  up to take leave from his friend on bed, the later yelled at him..This agreement is valid only if I die, but If get well ,by the grace of God, then we will have again to settle the scores with each other.